You seem to be confused about who is responsible for the carrying out of sexual abuse. The “wrong thing to do” was not done by the girl who was being abused, but by the perpetrator, who was a more powerful, older person.
A perpetrator will ensure that a child cannot say ‘no’. The child usually knows at the time that what was happening was wrong, but COULD NOT STOP IT. It is the issue of power that is at the heart of sexual abuse, not sex per se.
One great difficulty in recovering from the damage of sexual abuse is that the victim feels guilty and ashamed, because the perpetrator deliberately implicates the child in his/her own victimisation; e.g. gives them presents; or suggests that a child was ‘asking for it’. The pernicious thing is that abusers usually pick a child who is lonely and needs affection.
When abuse has taken place, it is even more devastating when other adults around the child also hold him/her (even partly) responsible.
Thus, abusers over-sexualise the children and suggest to them that they are choosing this (which they are not, they cannot), in order to draw them into a tightly-bounded relationship which is very difficult to break free from.
Your comments over-sexualise girls in the same way, seducing them into thinking that they have the power to choose, indeed to stop these awful things from happening to them. The conclusion drawn is that, if the girl doesn’t stop it, it must be her fault.
In a letter like this, the issues regarding over-sexualisation are too complex to discuss. However, what I really would like to see Members of Parliament doing, is tackling the real issues:
Rev Dr Susan Shooter
cc. Dan Rogerson MP
 For further information please see James Poling, 1991, The Abuse
of Power, Nashville Abingdon; Suzanne M. Sgroi,1989 ‘Stages of
Recovery for Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse’ in Sexual Abuse
Treatment for Children, Adult Survivors, Offenders, and Persons with
Mental Retardation: Vulnerable Populations, Vol. 2, ed. Suzanne M.
Sgroi, New York: Lexington, 111-130.